God is Hiding You

I was out with a friend a few days ago and she said something profound to me. She said the exact thing God told me in my early 20s but seemingly, I forgot along the way as I entered year 30 this year. Therefore, I knew it had to be no one but God sending me a reminder that He has not forgotten about me. Prior to what she said, I had shared how slightly frustrated I was that to this day, I am still very much single. I never dated as I was never asked out nor was I ever in a relationship. I desire to be in a committed, intentional, and purposeful relationship. The one guy who came my way was indecisive, only wanted to text, always claimed that he was too busy to hang out in person, a people pleaser, his words and actions never aligned, and was confused about his own life which caused a lot of confusion for me (BIG RED FLAG LADIES!). My friend did not entertain my venting. She instead said that I have to be so glad that God is keeping me hidden. He is hiding me from the damage dating around and being in multiple relationships unfortunately causes. It’s not that I am unattractive, unworthy, or incapable. It’s the exact opposite. I am too valuable to be touched by multiple people who are not assigned to my destiny. That guy cannot handle someone like me. His rejection of me is God’s blessing for me.

Ladies, I want to encourage you today and remind you that you are set apart for such a time like this. Because of your anointing, you cannot and will not be able to operate life the way the world does in a way that will bring you peace and fulfillment. Having “fun” with this guy, entertaining a situationship, or being in a relationship that is not God pleasing (e.g. one that pulls you away and not closer to Him) is not what God wants for you. Yes, the nights get lonely. Yes, your family and friends are out there with children and/or in a relationship. Yes, you are going to more and more baby showers and weddings without a similar resume. But that should never mean you settle for less than God’s best for you. 

If you deeply desire a marriage that reflects Christ, then wait on Him. Habakkuk 2:3 reminds believers, “If it seems slow in coming, wait patiently, for it will surely take place. It will not be delayed.” God’s timing is absolutely perfect. Just as I did (again) when I officially turned 30, it is time that you surrender (again and again) your singleness to God. Believe me when I say that nothing and no one can fill the void and the longing better than God can. 

As you trust God in this area of your life, do what I do and maximize your singleness! Go to school. Go back to school. Establish your career and financial security. Attend church regularly. Serve in ministry. Buy yourself that car or house. Move. Travel, even if it’s just to the next town or state over. Take yourself shopping. Get in the habit of doing your hair and nails regularly. Spend quality time with friends, family, by yourself, and with God. Find a hobby and commit to it… There are so many things that you can do. Let not another day go by without you enjoying this season as God continues to keep you in hiding. At the right time will He release you so that the man called to be your husband can find you! 

• Remember ladies, the man will find you. Not the other way around so stop trying to be found. It will happen naturally, and I believe in person (not on a dating app or social media if you are believing for that old school love!) He will not string you along but actively pursue you and be intentional. He will not bring confusion but peace. He will not manipulate you but be very direct and honest with you. He will honor and respect you because of his first love to God. His actions will reflect that of Christ (as yours should also). This kind of man is definitely worth the wait. 

Love,

Ali 💕 

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