A Message to Singles and Childless
Scripture tells us that marriage and children are a reward from God from the beginning of Genesis. Therefore, it can become very confusing and disheartening to a single person who desires to be married or a couple who desires children and it hasn’t happened.
If you have never experienced dating and/or being in a relationship, if you have experienced dating and/or being in a relationship and it wasn’t a good/healthy experience, or you’ve tried countless of times to have a child with your spouse and it has yet to happen for you, you often feel a wide range of emotions: disappointment, anxiety, helplessness, anger, insecurities, self-pity, guilt, depression, etc. The list goes on. I want you to know that singles and those without child have not been abandoned by God. It does not make you any less than your counterparts because you are without. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with you and I pray that you receive that.
You may not want to hear this but the truth is that God does not call everyone to marriage or parenthood. If and when He does, it is in His timing, not yours. No matter what it is, God has other blessings in store for singles and those without child. Once you realize that marriage and parenthood are not the only calling and responsibility God assigns to His children, and you come to terms with that, you will find true joy in embracing your personal assignment from God.
Where you are in life today is by no accident. There is a reason as to why God does everything. He has orchestrated every detail of your life. He knows your end from your beginning. He knows the number of hair strands on your head (Luke 12:7). He knows who is for you and who is against you. He knows who would love you and who would hurt you. He knows who will stay even when times get rough and who will leave. You may not understand everything because His thoughts are not your thoughts neither are His ways your ways (Isaiah 55:8-9), however, you can rest assured that He has something special in store for you. I believe that He has an extra special gift for us singles and childless. All God asks of us in times like these is that we walk in obedience and trust Him.
Singleness or childlessness (whether for a season or lifetime, by choice or not by choice) is a calling from God. If you dig a little deeper, it is also a gift. One that you have yet to unlock. If you do not see how, ask Him to show you, and trust me, He will!. If you are in a state of singleness or childlessness, I am telling you to get ready because God is about to use you and your life as a testament to strengthen you, grow your faith, and to encourage others by being an example. I can say this with 100% confidence because He is doing it for me. The way we connected is because I said yes to God. I want my singleness and purity to reflect the awesomeness of God that even in the midst of waiting, I can still find true enjoyment and fulfillment from Him in my life. I am choosing to look beyond what I don’t have and what I never experienced, and I pray that you do also because that is how contentment will find you.
God wants to remind you today that He has not forgotten about you. He is not punishing you nor is He rejecting you. He loves you and wants you to look beyond marriage and parenthood and see what opportunities there are in life. Do not stop living because your longings have yet to come to pass.
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