Allowing God to Write My Love Story

“Wow…” is all I can say as today, Wednesday, May 28th, 2025 marks the exact date 10 years ago when God gave me the Word about writing my love story. That date was Thursday, May 28th, 2015. The college semester was over and I remember lying on my parent’s bed in their bedroom on that sunny Spring afternoon reading a book recommended by my friend on my kindle, and God began speaking to me. I just turned 20 years old three months ago (February 8th, 2015). I turned over to get my phone from the nightstand on my father’s side of the bed, opened up the Microsoft Word app on my phone, and began writing. [As a side note, this was also the moment when I began to realize that journaling was God’s way of communicating with me. Till this day, He will put it in my spirit to go write, even in the middle of the work day or wee hours in the morning. Every time I obeyed is literally every time God spoke]. Below are the exact words God gave me from that journal entry, written exactly as such:

Wait patiently on God. His timing is ALWAYS perfect. While God is molding me into the young woman I am supposed to become in Christ, at the same time he is molding and shaping my future husband. 

God told me that dating [around] is not for me; [having multiple] relationships are not for me.

God has someone special in store for me, but only if I wait.

Dating and relationships won’t be for me because God said that when He finally brings a person into my life, that will be him. I won’t need to go searching if I wait on God. God will do all the searching for me if I rest in him. That guy would be so focused on God, as I should be also, that when he looks up, God will tell him that I will be for him.

Rest in the lord and wait patiently for him.

My relationship status has not changed. I have gone out with a few guys here and there but only as friendly hangouts. I have never been asked out on a date. I have never been pursued. Any guy that came into my life did not take the step to take me out of the friendzone. I am still very much single; however, my spirit continues to hold on to this Word. 10 years later and I am still choosing to believe the Word God gave me even though my current circumstances prove otherwise. I do not understand fully why this door has yet to open for me but I know that this season of waiting has proven time and time again to be for my good. This is one story that God will get all the glory in when it is all said and done.

I can say that who I am as a person from 2015 to 2025 has changed drastically. My relationship with God has grown tremendously especially in those moments where this journey became extremely hard. I did not allow the lack of one area to negatively impact the other areas of my life. I still pursued 2 college degrees now going on 3. I am in my 6th year in my chosen profession as a school psychologist. I developed excellent self-care habits. I spend a lot of time with friends and family but also by myself. I learned who I am and have come into agreement with that. I started my own business and it is thriving. I became a voice for this generation. …I can go on with the list of open doors but you get the point. I made these 10 years fruitful.

I see so many people remain stagnant, abort their dreams, and choose to not take care of themselves physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally all because that one door that they have been fervently praying about has not opened. Trust me when I say that I understand the frustration. The sadness. And the disappointment. I understand it all. However, that SHOULD NOT stop you from living out your life. I would always say that even in the midst of all the frustration, sadness, and disappointments, you can still choose life. You can still choose to take care of you and do your hair and nails or seek out therapy. You can still choose to [re]decorate your home or go to the gym. You can still choose to go out and have fun. You can still choose to travel or go back to school.

Your life is what you make it. Don’t waste it away. Keep the faith as you continue trusting God to write your story. In the meantime, use the talents, skills, and abilities God has given you to thrive and to go after all that you want to accomplish in this lifetime. You only have one life here on this Earth; therefore, make the most of it. You can choose to remain down and defeated, upset over the doors God has yet to open or you can choose to pick up your bed and walk [truly live]. 

P.S. I have chosen to celebrate this anniversary date by taking myself shopping and buying two gorgeous handbags. 10 years is huge! I celebrated this 10 year mark because I am proud of myself for continuously surrendering this area of my life to God. IT IS HARD especially because I am not getting any younger; however, with age comes wisdom, knowledge, strength, financial stability, healing, freedom, self-advocacy, deliverance, and growth. I know that when God finally opens up the door of relationship and marriage for me, I am going to be glad that I gave Him the pen and allowed Him to write my entire love story from beginning to end!

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