Can we agree that it is by no accident when God places people in our lives? I can provide you countless times when each person that I have come into contact with over the last years has served a great purpose in my life whether the experience was painful [in which I’ve learned from] or one that was filled with joy. This season of my life is no different. I was speaking to a friend while at work a few days ago and through conversation, he shared with me how he met his soon to be wife. He stated that he was not actively looking but he was open to…

It is no secret that I desire marriage. The older that I get, the longing for companionship, physical intimacy, and someone to do life with becomes stronger. I have even caught myself asking God at times, “Would it ever happen for me?” I see my friends and family who are in the same age bracket as me in relationships, married, on their 1st, 2nd, or 3rd child. I see how comparison in this area has destroyed a lot of my peace and joy because I was focusing more on what I didn’t have rather than what I did. The lack of experience in dating and being in a relationship has…

Yup, you read the title correctly. You do not need to date around in order to find the one. Let me break it down for you. Society tells us that you need to date around. You need to put yourself out there in order for you to find the one or for the one to find you. Dating around will help you figure out what you want in a mate versus what you don’t want. It will make for a successful, long lasting relationship. You will learn more about yourself as well as the opposite sex. You will learn what it takes to keep or break a relationship. While all…

The older I get, the more I understand the ins and outs of what makes a successful relationship last. Learning through friends and family as well as watching and listening to couples has helped me in my own journey. Whether you date recreationally [not looking for anything serious, no intent on marriage] or date intentionally [taking it seriously, intent to potentially marry the person you are dating], please, for the sake of everyone’s heart, let this be known from the jump. However you want to date is totally up to you but make sure it is clearly stated so that there is no confusion and both parties are on the…

Lie: I am not making myself available enough to “be found”. Truth: I have heard this all too often. “You need to go out more” is a phrase that never gets old. Trust when I say that if you were meant to be found by now, it would have happened already regardless of if you are a social butterfly and like social events, or you are an introvert and homebody kind of person. If you are the latter, God could make it happen where something breaks and/or needs fixing in your home and you need to call maintenance, and the maintenance person is it. You realize you need a few…

Lie: Waiting it out does not work. Truth: I believe that waiting it out does work if you are doing it for the right reason. Rather than sit around and wait for Mr./Mrs. “Right” to come along, God wants you to do and become in the midst of the wait. The waiting period should focus less on a future partner and more on self. This is the time to focus and accomplish your dreams with no distractions. This is the time to start something or finish something. You should not enter a relationship with nothing to bring to the table. You should enter a relationship with some accomplishments of your…